The Self-Respect Standard
An 8-week private coaching program for women who want to approach dating with stronger self-respect, clearer standards, and self-worth that doesn’t depend on someone else’s interest.
Most women already have a strong sense of what they want and how they want to be treated. The difficulty is maintaining that clarity once dating becomes emotionally involved. Attraction, excitement, and uncertainty can make it easy to overlook behavior that doesn’t fully align with your standards.
This program is not about losing yourself to attract a perfect partner. It focuses on the part of dating you actually control: how you show up, what you tolerate, and the standards you maintain.
Free 30-minute call to see if this program is a good fit.
Why so many women abandon their standards in dating
The issue is rarely a lack of knowledge. Most women already know what respectful behavior looks like. The problem is what happens emotionally when attraction is involved.
Suddenly:
• You overanalyze his messages
• You give the benefit of the doubt repeatedly
• You ignore behavior that makes you uncomfortable
• You invest more than he does
• You start hoping his potential will turn into effort
You tell yourself you’re being patient. But in reality, you’re slowly lowering your standards. Not because you want to, but because you’re afraid that holding them might cost you the relationship.
Over time, this creates a pattern:
You meet someone → you feel excited → you overlook things → you end up disappointed.
This program is about breaking that cycle.
What this coaching program is about
This program is not about:
• manifesting texts
• decoding men’s behavior
• becoming more attractive to someone who is unsure about you
• learning how to convince someone to choose you
You won’t learn strategies to win someone’s attention or keep someone interested. Instead, we focus on how you approach dating: how you evaluate someone’s behavior, what you tolerate, how you communicate your standards, and how you maintain your self-respect regardless of someone else’s level of interest.
That means:
• having clear standards
• communicating directly
• recognizing early signs of misalignment
• not tolerating behavior that makes you feel like someone’s option
• and not building your identity around whether you have a partner or not
Dating becomes much simpler when you stop trying to earn someone’s interest.
After this program, you will be able to
• Identify when someone’s behavior doesn’t meet your standards without second-guessing yourself
• Communicate what you want clearly instead of worrying that your directness will make you “too much” or push someone away
• Stop giving unlimited chances to people who show inconsistent effort
• Recognize the difference between attraction and compatibility
• Walk away from situations that compromise your self-respect
• Date without making someone else the center of your emotional world
• Feel calm and grounded instead of anxious about where you stand
The goal is not to control how dating turns out. The goal is to make sure you never lose yourself in the process of dating.
When your self-worth no longer depends on someone’s approval or attention, dating becomes much clearer and far less confusing.
How the program works in practice
The Self-Respect Standard is an 8-week private coaching program.
You and I will meet once per week for a 45-minute session. Each session focuses on what’s currently present in your dating life: the situations, patterns, or decisions you are navigating. Together, we examine these experiences in a way that helps you approach dating with greater clarity, stronger standards, and a deeper sense of self-respect.
Format:
• 8 private coaching sessions (45 minutes each)
• Personalized guidance tailored to your current dating experiences
• Focused conversations that help you strengthen your standards, boundaries, and self-respect in dating
This is not passive learning. You will actively examine your patterns and start making different choices.
What we focus on during the program
Each client comes with different experiences and patterns, so the exact focus of our sessions will depend on your situation.
During the 8 weeks, we typically explore areas such as:
• recognizing patterns that lead to accepting less than what you want
• defining and strengthening your personal standards in dating
• learning to communicate directly without fear of being “too much”
• identifying behavior that signals misalignment early
• developing boundaries that protect your self-respect
• detaching your sense of worth from someone’s level of interest
• creating a life that doesn’t revolve around relationship status
Our sessions focus on what is currently happening in your dating life so that the work is practical and immediately applicable.
This program is for you if
• You know you have strong values but still find yourself tolerating behavior that doesn’t align with them.
• You tend to give people multiple chances even when something already feels wrong.
• You want to stop overanalyzing and start trusting your judgment.
• You want to date without shrinking yourself or trying to be someone easier to accept.
• You want your self-respect to remain intact regardless of how a dating situation unfolds.
This program is not for you if
• Your main goal is to learn how to make someone like you.
• You are looking for quick dating tactics or scripts.
• You want strategies to keep someone interested rather than learning how to choose what’s right for you.
• You are looking for reassurance that someone will eventually choose you.
This work requires honesty and willingness to change your patterns.
About the coach
I am Ivana, a certified life coach and solution-focused coach.
My work focuses on helping women develop stronger self-respect, clearer standards, and greater personal autonomy, particularly in the context of dating and relationships.
I am also the author of “She’s Intense,” a guide to self-respect and personal autonomy for women.
This coaching program expands on the ideas from the book and applies them directly to real-life dating situations.
Investment
The investment for the full 8-week private coaching program is $800 USD.
Included:
• 8 private coaching sessions (45 minutes each)
• Personalized guidance based on your current dating experiences
• Space for honest reflection and practical decision-making
• Ongoing focus on strengthening your standards and self-respect in dating
Coaching sessions take place online and are scheduled weekly at a time that works for both of us.
Start with a 30-minute clarity call
Before joining the program, we will have a free 30-minute call.
The purpose of this call is simple:
• understand your current situation
• answer your questions
• see if the program is a good fit
There is no pressure to continue if it doesn’t feel aligned.
One final thought
Dating becomes exhausting when your sense of self-worth starts depending on someone else’s level of interest. The moment you stop doing that, something important changes. You stop chasing clarity and you start setting it as a standard. You no longer stay in situations where your self-respect slowly disappears.
The purpose of this work is simple: to help you build a sense of self-worth and self-respect that doesn’t rise or fall based on whether someone chooses you. That shift is what this program is designed to create.
