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6 Steps to Demand Respect in Dating Without Chasing or Convincing

I was just having a staring contest with my laptop while trying to think of what to write for the introduction. My Scorpio Mercury would much rather dissect the entire topic over 2000 words than do an elevator pitch about it. But then I Googled the meaning of the word “demand” to spark some ideas. Amongst other definitions, it said “claim as a right.” And that activated something within me. That’s what it means to demand respect in dating. This post is not about how to get a man to respect you. I’m not the type of woman who’s...

How to Be Authentic In a World That Wants Everyone to Be the Same

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I’m not a fan of spoonfeeding people information, so let’s switch roles for a moment. Before I start sharing my thoughts on how to be authentic, explore what makes sense for you. Think for yourself. How would you define authenticity? What does being authentic mean to you? If you want to return to your authenticity, it will be much easier once you’ve clearly defined it. Otherwise, you might end up following someone else’s ideas and definitions. For me, authenticity is a decision not to abandon myself. It’s a decision to speak my truth, no matter who I’m with. To...

22 Deep Journal Prompts for Self-Respect and Stronger Boundaries

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The first step toward building self-respect is self-awareness. Awareness around behaviors you have to stop tolerating, patterns that need to end, and boundaries you want to set. And what better way to develop self-awareness than going inward? With today’s journal prompts for self-respect, that’s exactly where we’re heading. You don’t need to ask your friends for advice, hoping they’ll give you clarity on what to change. No one knows you better than yourself because no one has ever even stepped foot into your life. You were there from the beginning. That’s why you can never get it wrong. For...

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What to Do When You Feel Like You’re Going Backward in Life

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When I researched keywords for today’s topic, I mostly found suggestions on “what to do when you feel behind.” However, feeling behind and feeling like you’re going backward in life are two different things. Feeling behind, the way I see it, can come when it feels like your life is moving more slowly. You compare yourself to others and think, “They’re already doing that while I’m still here. I have to catch up.” It’s as though you’re behind someone else. Feeling like you’re going backward in life, on the other hand, can come when you have already ticked things...

The Hidden Root of Perfectionism (And How to Release It)

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Is perfectionism really about holding yourself to a higher standard? Or is it fear in disguise? What’s the hidden root of perfectionism? The hidden root of perfectionism Think about it, how did your parents/siblings/teachers react when you made a mistake as a kid? a) they yelled at you (“How could you do this? I told you not to do that! Why don’t you ever listen??”) b) they insulted you (“How can you be so stupid?? Why don’t you ever use your brain?”) c) they physically hurt you What we label as perfectionism and our preference to get things done...

111 Positive Affirmations and How to Activate Them Without Repetition

PERSONAL GROWTH

Positive affirmations don’t have to be empty sentences you say to yourself, hoping they will magically become true. Instead, you can use positive affirmations to create new beliefs that will support your desired outcome. How to activate positive affirmations in less than 5 minutes? To make the most out of positive affirmations, create evidence as to why they are true. That’s how our beliefs are created, by finding evidence for why a certain thought is true. If you don’t feel confident, repeating to yourself ‘’I am confident’’ a bunch of times won’t make much difference when you need that...

How to Know If You Have Outgrown Who You Used to Be

PERSONAL GROWTH

When was the last time you thought, “This is just not it anymore. This is just not serving me anymore”? Today, we’ll explore what to do when you have outgrown who you used to be. What to do when you have outgrown certain people, friendships, and relationships. Or even when you have outgrown your job, hobbies, and interests. When I’m talking about outgrowing something or someone, I’m talking about that moment when you realize something is just not the right fit anymore. This doesn’t mean that you’re better than someone. It doesn’t mean that someone is wrong and you’re right....

How to Feel Happy Again and Build Your Happiness Muscle

PERSONAL GROWTH

Have you ever thought to yourself, how did I get here? How am I living a life that makes me unhappy? How to feel happy again? Today, we will explore what makes you unhappy and how to feel happy again. We’ll go behind the scenes of that moment when you sit down with yourself and realize you’re unhappy, unfulfilled, or dissatisfied. Just not happy with your life. I’ll offer insights about the part that often gets overlooked and how to make some changes in that area. We will take a simple and effective approach to creating a happier life...