In today’s blog post, I’m sharing some key points of deconditioning open Ego center in Human Design. I talk about different ways the challenges of your open Ego center can show up in your life. I walk you through going from having a sense of low self-worth to building your self-worth to the point where you feel solid within yourself.
Life gets much easier once you notice these patterns and make a conscious choice to think and act differently.
Different ways of deconditioning open Ego center in Human Design
1) Do you feel worthy of people giving you money/being paid/receiving money in your business/getting a promotion or going for more?
I have a completely open Ego center in Human Design and one of the challenges I experienced is when it comes to inviting people into my paid offers.
I always openly promoted my free content because I believe there’s value in it and there are always going to be people who need to hear what I’m sharing. However, when it comes to my paid offers that will help you even more because they’re fully customized to your specific situation, I used to feel resistance promoting them.
On the surface, of course, I wanted my business to succeed. I wanted more clients. I wanted more money.
But subconsciously I didn’t feel worthy of receiving other people’s money. I didn’t feel worthy of being paid.
Learning about my Design helped me gain awareness of the patterns and beliefs that were holding me back. From there, I started working on building my sense of self-worth. Trusting that what I have to offer deserves to be promoted as much as my free content.
2) Do you feel worthy of other people buying you stuff/paying for your drinks or dates?
Do you get uncomfortable when you know someone else will pay for your order so you order the cheapest thing on the menu?
You don’t want to be too much so you settle for less.
With deconditioning open Ego center, I also had to work on feeling worthy of other people buying me gifts and paying for my drinks/food.
Now I’m at the point where I order whatever I want. I always have my own money to pay for myself, but if someone else offers to pay, I’m fine with that.
I don’t feel the pressure to immediately reciprocate. I simply enjoy being taken care of and receiving good things.
Read next:
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3) Do you prioritize other person’s pleasure when it comes to sex?
This is mostly for my women here. How many times have you prioritized your partner’s pleasure?
How often did you think to yourself ‘‘It’s okay if I don’t orgasm’’?
Your pleasure is just as worthy. Your pleasure is just as important. Just because men mostly orgasm faster, it doesn’t mean that you’re not worthy of effort.
The right partner will want to pleasure you.
If you’re not aware of how you’re sabotaging your pleasure (thinking it’s not that important), it can be your default behavior your entire life. Instead of settling for mediocre sex and feeling frustrated/angry/disappointed/or bitter after sex, learn to ask for what you want.
Deconditioning open Ego center in Human Design also means getting comfortable with asking for what you want. Because, hey, if you don’t ask for what you want, how will you ever get it?
4) Are you seeking validation and approval outside of yourself?
I know this one very well. Are you posting photos of yourself just to get likes?
Do you want other people to confirm you’re good enough?
I’ve done this many times. I’d post a selfie and wait for that certain guy to like it so that I know I look good. For 5 seconds, I’d feel amazing. But then what?
What happens if that certain someone doesn’t send you a fire emoji for your beach photo? You start doubting yourself. You don’t think it was such a good photo after all. I mean, if it was that good, wouldn’t more people like it?
You want other people to think you’re good enough. Beautiful enough. Funny enough. Interesting enough. Intelligent enough. You name it…
During deconditioning open Ego center, I came to the point where I’m like – I actually just need to be okay with who I am. I don’t want to change myself to get other people’s approval. I don’t care about other people’s approval.
I can’t give that power to someone else. That’s my responsibility. I can’t rely on someone else to feel good about myself. I’m working on loving myself instead of posting selfies or doing things hoping someone will like me.
That’s the only thing that’s sustainable in the long term.
Working on feeling solid, confident, and stable within yourself. That way, no matter what someone says about you, you know you’re good. Because you’ve built a rock-solid relationship within yourself instead of being reliant on how other people perceive you.
Learn more:
Human Design Is Not an Excuse for Red Flags
Self-Help Gurus vs. Human Design // when self-help isn’t helping you
5) Do you feel worthy of being treated with respect?
During your journey of deconditioning open Ego center in Human Design, sometimes (or oftentimes) you’ll need to set boundaries, speak up, or simply remove yourself from people who treat you like an option.
Awareness from your open Ego center comes with challenges, but when it clicks, it clicks for life.
Your personal narrative changes to ”You know what? I’m actually worthy of respect. I’m actually worthy of being well compensated for my knowledge, experience, time, and energy. I actually deserve all the fantastic things I desire.”
Questions for reflection
– Where are you settling for less?
– Where are you not getting your needs met?
– What would it look like if you allowed yourself to receive money/compliments/gifts without the pressure to reciprocate?
– Where are you not speaking up? – take up space, ask for what you want
– Where are you not allowing yourself to receive more?
Until the next time,
Ivana
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