Human Design Is Not an Excuse for Red Flags

Have you ever tried to justify someone’s disrespectful behavior by looking at their Human Design? I sure did. However, Human Design is not an excuse for any kind of rude behavior.

In this post, I share my experience and what I’ve learned when I validated other people’s insulting behavior because I could see where it could stem from in their Human Design chart.

Human Design is an amazing tool that helps you understand yourself and others. However, today I want to talk about the line between accepting the other through their Design vs. putting up with disrespectful behavior because you explain it by looking at their bodygraph.

1) Using Human Design as an excuse for red flags

Here’s an example to show what I mean by this. Someone lied to me and I justified that by saying ”That’s okay. They have the 44-26 channel.” The 44-26 Channel of Surrender is good at marketing, selling, and manipulating the truth to get you to believe what they’re saying.

So I said, ”It’s nothing personal, it’s just this channel.’’

I used Human Design as a permission slip for others to treat me badly.

It’s expected that this can happen at some point because as much as we use Human Design to understand ourselves, we equally use it to understand others.
There are always going to be challenging parts of someone’s Design or similarly, astrological natal chart. Nonetheless, it’s not a reason to be rude and go through life hurting others because you’re not willing to work on that. It’s an opportunity to work on yourself.

More about Human Design:

When You’re a Generator With No Energy // Feeling Like a Projector?

Sacral Authority in Human Design Explained // follow your gut

2) Are you using Human Design as an excuse or an opportunity?

I’ll share an example from my astrology placements. I have Scorpio Sun, Venus, Mercury, etc. and Scorpios are supposed to be jealous. At least that’s what every description is going to tell you. ”Scorpios are intense, mysterious, and jealous.”

And I admit it. Scorpios can be very jealous. Even so, I know how much I worked on myself, my mindset, and my limiting beliefs to build a stable version of myself that doesn’t get easily triggered and jealous.

In my opinion, 99% of the time the root of jealousy is insecurity that makes you see everyone else as a threat. Once I understood that, I knew I needed to work on my deep-rooted insecurities.

Otherwise, I’d spend the rest of my life lashing out at people who have done nothing wrong because I’d feel insecure.

I needed to ask myself, do I want to work through this or keep hurting people because I’m not willing to deal with this part of myself? And then say, ”Oh I’m just a Scorpio. Of course I’m jealous.” Is it an excuse or an opportunity for growth?

3) Ways we might be justifying red flags using Human Design

When someone has a lot of definition in their chart, we tend to think it’s someone who’s set in their ways, has their own way of doing things and seeing the world. We think they’d be difficult to make a compromise with.

Could be. But even so, you can’t bend over backward because you’re a single-channel Projector and they’re a fully defined MG so they’re already fixed.

Recognize if you’re putting up with their lack of willingness to meet you halfway.

In relationships, friendships, or any kind of interpersonal relationship, we need to meet each other halfway.

More like this:

Human Design Is Not a Religion

Human Design Authority vs. Romanticizing the Outcome

4) What’s the line between accepting others as who they are vs. validating their red flags?

In my opinion, the line is – is this bringing you satisfaction/peace/success/surprise? Is it moving you toward your Signature Theme?

Interpersonal/social/familial/romantic relationships require effort on all sides, not just you because you know their Design.

Ask yourself – is there a healthy balance of effort or are you doing all the work because you want to accept them as who they are?

Sometimes when you know someone’s Human Design, you don’t want to change that person at all. You want to empower them to live a life true to themselves. There’s also a line with this.

There’s a difference between letting others be who they are, and not trying to change them vs. both putting in the effort to meet in the middle while honoring and respecting each other.

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