La Ivana Cert. Life Coach & Human Design Guide

Does your home often look cluttered and make you feel anxious? Do you sometimes feel drained after talking to certain people? I believe that everything has energy. The moment you meet someone you get a certain ”vibe” from them.

And what about the toxic work environment? How to clear negative energy from the other aspects of your life? In today’s post, I’m sharing with you how to clear negative energy from your life.

From journal prompts to help you deal with negative people, to crystals that bring positivity in your life. There’s a wide variety of things you can do to clear negative energy from your life, so let’s get started.

1. Clear negative energy from your relationships

“If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end low vibrational relationship or friendship — you won.” 
― Lalah Delia

There are several ways you can approach this part. The easiest one is to clear negative energy from your social media feed. This means to unfollow all the accounts that make you feel bad. All those people that you look at and think ”oh, I wish I had that.” Unfollow.

However, if you see some people living a kind of lifestyle that you want to create for yourself, and feel genuinely HAPPY for them, keep them (if you wish).

If you feel INSPIRED and it gives you faith that it can happen for you, too, that’s a separate scenario.
We can look at the same people from a very different perspective. I’d suggest keeping what gives you motivation but getting rid of everything that doesn’t give you any kind of joy.

The same goes for YouTube. Unsubscribe from channels that you feel like you’ve outgrown. YouTube has been here since 2005, so I’m sure the majority of us is still subscribed to some channels that we loved years ago, but nowadays they just don’t resonate with us anymore. Unsubscribe and make your feed less chaotic.

Facebook friends… I’m a minimalist in every aspect of my life. That means that I approach everything with the mindset that says ”If it doesn’t bring me value, it doesn’t deserve space in my life.”
Therefore, I deleted the majority of people that I know. Or should I say… that I KNEW.

I changed a lot in the past few years. The kind of lifestyle I led two years ago has nothing in common with the way I live now. Hence, the people I surround myself with changed.
I kept only a handful of people on Facebook and I feel much lighter.

Now onto the more serious things, actual relationships.

What to do when there are toxic people in your family? How to clear negative energy that comes from your co-workers?

There’s one thing to remember, you can only change yourself. You are the only person in control of your attitude and your reactions. Since each situation is different, there is no one-size-fits-all kind of answer to these questions.

However, I am going to share some journal prompts for you to come to the solution as to how to keep your energy positive while being surrounded by people who make you feel negative.

• Who are the toxic people in your life? Who makes you feel negative every time you come in contact with them?
• Is there something they say or do that makes you feel negative? Are they gossiping, offending you, making fun of you, always complaining?
  What is it that bothers you about them?
• Are there any ways you can stop that? How you can stop that? Can you tell them that you don’t want to engage in gossiping? Can you tell them that you don’t want to listen to a certain subject that they talk about because it makes you feel uncomfortable?
• What can you do if you can’t stop what they are doing? Can you change the way you react? Can you ignore it? Remove them completely from your life? Cut cords?
• Write a letter to each toxic person in your life. Write everything that you would tell them. Everything that bothers you, every time they hurt you and made you feel bad. Every bad memory you hold onto so strongly, write it out. Write about your feelings. Everything. Write about what are you going to do now that you said all that. What’s going to change? Are you going to cut them out of your life? Are you going to forgive them and move on with your life?
  And then let go. Throw away or burn that letter (in a safe environment) together with all the bad memories attached to it. Reset.

The next thing to do when you want to clear negative energy from your relationships is to change your behavior.  You need to DECIDE to change, otherwise, nothing will change. If you intentionally unfollow some people, don’t check their account two days later to see what they’re up to.

Even if you break up with someone who is not right for you, don’t go back to that relationship the next time you feel bored or lonely. And then wonder why things didn’t work out the 2nd time.

Stop doing things out of boredom. Multiple times I said yes to going out with people that I didn’t like. No one forced me, I just felt bored or wanted to hang out with someone. It happens.

However, when you say yes to being surrounded by negative people, you’re the one to blame when you come home and feel anxious and in a bad mood.

Keep yourself away from falling in the negative patterns by being more intentional. Before you accept the invitation, ask yourself do you really want to be surrounded by those people. There’s no need to get into conflicts, just make positivity a priority in your life. If it doesn’t make you feel positive, do yourself a favor and stay out of it.

One more thing you could do is to get black tourmaline if you’re into crystals. Black tourmaline is well known for clearing and soaking negativity. Especially when it comes to toxic people. It soaks their energy so that they can’t get to you. If you need more positivity in your life, you might want to try it out.

To conclude this point, unfollow, unsubscribe, remove, mute, let go and bring the smile back on your face.
Extra tip, take a deep breath in and a deep breath out each time after you click ”unfollow”. It feels like a weight on your shoulders is lifted off.

2. Clear negative energy from your home and environment

“The best way to choose what to keep and what to throw away is to take each item in one’s hand and ask: “Does this spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it. This is not only the simplest but also the most accurate yardstick by which to judge.” 
― Marie Kondō

Personally, I’ve always enjoyed clearing negative energy by decluttering. I thrive on having my space clean and organized, so decluttering is something that comes naturally to me.

One more thing I often do when I’m at home is changing things up in my room. For instance, I move my desk or my bed to another side of the room to refresh the stale energy. I love changes (hence, the constant desire to travel) so I try to apply them to every area od my life.

Rearranging my furniture is a great way to give my space a makeover without spending any money since I don’t own any room decorations. I don’t rely on Feng Shui when it comes to this, although… Now that I think about it, I’m open to getting more into it in the future.

Getting rid of gifts that you associate with bad memories is something to consider, as well. I think it was Marie Kondo who said that the purpose of a gift is to be received. And that’s true. After you received it and said Thank you to the person who gave it, there’s nothing much to do.

If you don’t like it, there’s no need to keep it. You’ve shown appreciation when you received it, but there’s no one to blame if you don’t want to keep it.

When you set the intention to clear negative energy from your life, don’t let the past stop you. In order to allow more positivity into your life, you have to be willing to get rid of everything that is holding you back. 

You decide what kind of life you want to live in. If you feel like it would be best for your growth to let go of certain things, do it. Otherwise, as I’ve said, nothing will change.

There’s one book I read a few months ago and absolutely loved the idea and the concept behind it. It’s called The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter, by Margareta Magnusson.

I highly, highly recommend reading it. It will give you a different perspective or at least a few more reasons to declutter. At least it did for me… If you’re short on time, check out the link to read or listen to it in just 10 minutes.

If you constantly feel like your home is a mess and it makes you anxious, then do something. Change it. Get rid of that mess. Donate, sell stuff online, make a yard sale…

One of the best things to do with all that mess is to earn some money from it. I sold heaps of stuff online once I realized that it’s better to sell things I don’t use than to push them back in the closet.

In addition, one more thing you can do to clear negative energy from your home or even your office is smudging. I got more in-depth on ways you can do it in another post I wrote about wellness habits that changed my life. Essentially, it has a therapeutic effect on your mind and energy. Once I even cried while I was smudging my room.

I was setting intentions as to how I wanted to feel in my room and repeating affirmations while smudging with my sage wand, and suddenly I just burst into tears. It was a good cry. It represented getting rid of the old and opening myself to the new. New energy, new goals, new mindset.

And, ultimately, open the windows. That’s the least you can do for clearing stale energy in your home. 

3. Do the work from within

Certainly, this is the most difficult one. You can declutter your whole house in a day (if you really want to). You can cut out all the negative people from your life in one day. But the work you have to do within is a process.

What I mean by clearing negative energy from within is overcoming your limiting beliefs you’ve been building for ages. Overcoming fear of failure based on other people telling you you can’t succeed. Letting go of every insult you’ve heard in your life. Showing compassion to yourself for every moment in your life when you woke up in the morning, went to the bathroom and hated what you saw in the mirror.

Clear all that. Now, that’s the real work. Rewriting the story you’ve been telling yourself your whole life.

Changing ”I’m not good enough” to ”I’m the best person for that.” Seeing yourself succeeding before seeing any results. Most importantly, believing in yourself when no one else does. That’s clearing negative energy from within.

Change the things you watch, listen or read. Stop watching the news if seeing what’s going on in the world always stresses you out. Make your peace and well-being a priority.

There’s never anything positive on the news anyway. Except on the weather section. If watching TV doesn’t put you in a good mood, stop watching it. Or change the channel.

I know a person who is always complaining about how there’s nothing positive on the TV and still keeps watching it. I mean… Either do something about it or stop complaining.

You can read all the books on this subject, read all the articles, listen to all podcasts, but if you’re not willing to do the work, you’re wasting your time. Personally, what changed the whole thing for me was journaling. I’m always asking myself questions to improve my life, visualizing my dream life, etc.

It all starts from within. Create new habits, get rid of the ones you don’t like. And, yes, it’s that easy. Once you realize what kind of life you want to create for yourself and decide to go after it, nothing can stop you. Especially not the past version of yourself.

When you feel sad, bored or lazy, remember that it’s only the stale energy in your body. That’s why we often feel better when we go outside for a walk or do something productive. As a result, we’re refreshing the energy in ourselves.

So there you go. Start small by unfollowing people who don’t make you feel good and work your way through journaling. Set the intention that you’re allowing more positivity in your life and notice how it makes you feel.

Be intentional about the way you spend your time and the people you surround yourself with. It’s a process, so let yourself grow through it.

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Until the next time,
I.

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